Tip 2 - Does Size Matter?
Does Size Matter?
It is perfectly normal to feel some nervousness or uncertainty when you first become intimate with someone. Poor body image, weak self-confidence or sexual inexperience can all contribute to this negative effect. Penis size, or a lack thereof, can create so much confusion and insecurity, even to the point of obsessiveness. It is useful to have SOME size, but more than a few inches doesn't make the difference between a good lover, or bad. In any case, you don't have to let it weaken your performance; you can pleasure the heck out of someone regardless of size.
We are no longer living in the proverbial caveman days where a big penis dictates a man's virility, sexuality and masculinity; if it's connected to a vulgar, inexperienced oaf then he doesn't stand a chance. Although a big package might make your life a little easier, you wont have much of a grace period if you have inexcusable sexual habits. Being a master in the bedroom is not just about deep penetration. It's about having confidence, openness and impressive bedroom skills - with emphasis on skills...
Some women truly don't even like a big penis it can be uncomfortable or downright painful! Also, of much more importance to a woman is penis girth (measurement around the penis) rather than length; the nerve-endings within a woman's vagina end within a couple of inches, so the sensation of 'feeling full' is generally more about the width than anything else.
Work on your skills and up-sell them! Your penis won't be as big as one of her dildos, so don't bother competing! Why not become the master of cunnilingus and make sure to hone your fingering skills? Or how about turning into a walking sex encyclopedia? You'll impress her with your knowledge and dazzle her with your talent.
Maybe consider a massage course; it can make your partner feel so aroused and will help you appreciate the importance of touch and sensuality.
Feel confident about yourself if she doesn't think that you're comfortable with your penis, she definitely won't be. The way that you feel about yourself is very apparent to women because they always want to read between the lines. Don't direct so much apprehension to places you're uncomfortable with; a man with a very obvious complex is a big turnoff. She might not have even noticed had you not obsessed about it.
Respect your sexual partner, whether they are long term or not. This will translate to her feeling more comfortable and more receptive. The openness that she feels will actually improve her sexual experience with you (score for you) but she'll be much more interested in reciprocating the same respect with inexhaustible invigorated effort. Score for you again.
Utilizing certain Sex Positions can make your penis seem like a giant's. Try integrating sexual positions that focus on G-spot Stimulation; they make use of the right angles and shallower penetration. Avoid the showy poses that even the most endowed fellow couldn't handle. Also consider seeking out specialty condoms that are tailor-made for a smaller penis when you need to call upon them in your time of need, you wont be worrying about how they fit.
Tighten up some other areas of concern in your life so that you have fewer things to worry about, let alone what other people might think of your penis. Even just the action of self-improvement will change your self-perception. There are things you could do to procure bedroom approval: exercising to improve body image; having better grooming techniques like trimming or shaving your pubic area; good hygiene (smelling good & having fresh breath); and, preparing your sex space for maximum impact (even if that is only just tidying it up).
No matter what size you are (Average Penis Size - or otherwise), one thing is for sure. The biggest thing that your partner will notice is how much you respect and satisfy them in bed... honest!
Average Penis Size
The age-old question, "Am I well hung?" Well, before going on to see where you
stand, or should we say hang, remember that size is not everything. Most women
prefer a man with a less then average Penis and great at Cunnilingus, to a man
with a larger penis and no skills. Furthermore, you should never worry about
your size; it will only lead to anxieties and potentially a variety of sexual
dysfunctions.
If you are racing forward to find out what the average penis size is to see if you are ok, stop. Read the first paragraph again. The purpose of this article is not so that men can come and see if they are big enough, its purpose is to satisfy curiosity, and to reiterate to all the self conscious males out there that size is not everything.
One of the reasons that men are so self-conscious about this has to do with illusions. When men are in the locker room, they cant help but glance around the room to see how they measure up. Unfortunately, there is a very different angle looking down than across the room, so men become paranoid that they are too small. Also, a mans limp size has very little indication to his erect size. Furthermore, most men start getting paranoid about it before they have finished growing.
That being said (hopefully not ignored) penis size consists of two components, length and circumference. Although most studies in this area vary slightly in the findings, the average erect penis length is 4 to 5.5 to inches, and the average circumference is 3 to 4.5 inches.
Penis Length
Your erection length is defined as the linear distance along the dorsal (top)
side of the erect penis, from the mons veneris to the tip of the glans. In
non-medical jargon, your penis is measured in a straight, or for some arced,
line on the topside of the erect penis, from where your belly meets the shaft to
the tip of your penis. Take multiple measurements over the course of a few days
and then average the values. Since your erections can vary slightly depending on
your level of arousal, mood, room temperature, and even the duration since your
last sexual encounter, averaging out a few measurements will let you get a more
accurate read.
Penis Circumference
Penis circumference is defined as the linear distance around the widest part of
the erect penis. Whether you use a piece of string or a fabric ruler, you should
wrap it around the widest part of your penis, one time. If using string, make
sure it is not stretchy, and mark the string at the correct spot and then
measure the portion with a ruler. As with penis length, this should be done over
a few days and the result averaged out.
